Last week, I had the privilege of speaking with multi-national manifestation coach Agnes Vivarelli. With millions of views, it isn't surprising that she'd drop mind-blowing insights in just an hour-long convo. But she also happens to be a specialist in attracting a Person of Interest or Specific Person -- one of the hottest topics in manifestation today.
Perhaps one of the most underrated coaches I've ever come across (I'll get into why later), I could go on forever just gushing about what a positive force she was, both in energy and wisdom.
(Here's a bonus: Snag her valuable freebies at the bottom of this page).
For those of you who don't know, Agnes Vivarelli offers eight e-courses covering Self-Love as well as Manifesting Specific People and Careers/Work. These range in difficulty, meaning her content follows a progressive approach, conducive to long-term retention and application.
Agnes is also a prolific content creator with 1,000+ videos on her Youtube channel that you can't afford to miss if you're serious about manifesting.
So let's dive right in! Read the opening transcripts from our conversation below, or listen to the whole podcast episode by clicking here.
[CATTE]
All right. Welcome to the Alchemy and Aura podcast, where we teach wellness and spirituality so you can live a fuller, richer, and more rewarding experience while on this planet. Today, I am so excited and blessed to have Manifestation Coach Agnes Vivarelli, someone with over a thousand videos and tens of thousands of followers on YouTube. Agnes, thank you so much for being here.
[VIVARELLI]
Thanks for asking me, Shannon. It's a pleasure.
[CATTE]
And you have a ton of just life experience. You were born in Southern France and then moved to Canada and stayed a while in Australia. And now you're between London and Sydney living the dream. And now you're between London and Sydney living the dream. In your you've used manifestation to heal a life, do creative work for more money. tumor, And I know you have a video on your top manifestations that people can check out on YouTube. But for now, let's start at the top and work our way down. So how long have you been a coach for and what got you started?
[VIVARELLI]
I've been a coach since 2015 and what got me started was, well, firstly, the learning because my own life 30 years ago was a mess and I wanted to focus my way out of that. So relationships and money were my two most difficult areas. And lo and behold, 30 years later, it seems to be that that's two of the areas that's very challenging for most people. So it started all that time ago and having a tumor was definitely the beginning because I got that in my late 20s. So that's why it all unfolded in my own healing journey, which then overflowed into doing a coaching course and then helping others with these areas as well.
[CATTE]
Got it. And so putting together this timeline of your life, and you said you grew up in France. this timeline of your life. And you said you grew up in France. So how much was this manifestation and healing modality a part of the French culture? And how much did you pick up over traveling?
[VIVARELLI]
I can't say that I did a lot there because I was quite young when I was there. And then my parents immigrated to Canada. I mean, I do travel there now because my family is still four generations in the south of France. So I still go back there. But the whole manifestation and healing and, you know, finding a wonderful, amazing partner and just moving into that lifestyle, which is really based on being free. That happened from when I was in Australia.
[CATTE]
So our viewers can get oriented with, you know, the topic from your perspective, what do you feel is the best explanation of manifesting?
[VIVARELLI]
I would say in the simplest form, manifesting is the practice of bringing what you want into your life through belief and through other law of attraction techniques.
[CATTE]
And there's a lot of Law of Attraction. I think the way that that became very popular was through Rhonda Byrnes’ “The Secret” and that seems to be a lot of people's introduction into spirituality is that law of belief and bringing what you want or like attracts like.
[VIVARELLI]
She's actually from Australia. She’s from Queensland.
[CATTE]
Oh i did not know. Very cool. Do people need to be a certain religion or have certain beliefs to start manifesting? Because sometimes I know some people, they just start accidentally manifesting and things just line up for them, like the synchronicities and all that.
[VIVARELLI]
No. I mean, I know people that are totally atheist and don't have a religion that manifest, and then there's people that are very religious, and then have a religion that manifest. And then there's people that are very religious. And then there are people that grew up with religion, but perhaps have stepped away from it and just have a one-on-one connection with God. So it's something that you can do no matter where you're at with religion or spirituality.
[CATTE]
Yeah. And in some cases, I have a brother-in-law who doesn't believe in manifesting, but he is one of the best manifestors I have ever seen. He just radiates. He like radiates accomplishment, I guess, where he just says, I want something, I'm going to do it, and it happens. Everything lines up.
[VIVARELLI]
Great self-belief. That's wonderful.
[CATTE]
But there's a lot of strategies or tactics that people have these days on, let's say, TikTok or Instagram. I'm seeing the two cups method where you pour water from your current reality into your ideal reality, and then you throw it away or you drink it. there's the 369 method. What ARE your thoughts on all of these [tactics] that people are talking about?
[VIVARELLI]
I think there are some useless techniques and methods and I think there's some really good ones. I think the ones that really work on your mind and your emotions are the best ones, such as affirmations, meditations, also, you know, the 369 method is, I think, quite a good one. The whispering technique is you working from within, and I think that's quite good as well. I've used all of those vision boards. They've been around for a long time, so they've stood the test of time. I think if you stick to the ones that really work on your mindset and really work on you getting away from the problem that you've got currently in front of you and you focus on the techniques that help you to look at solutions and mentally and emotionally change your state from a problem suffering state to a freedom, joy, happiness, and secure state, then they are the best techniques.
[CATTE]
I know personally for me, I've grown up thinking that I have to work very hard for money. And if I am miserable, then that means I'm doing good work, you know, and I deserve money. But if I'm having fun, then I don't deserve it. And so I am actually working to rewire that by first identifying where those beliefs came from, what caused me to ingrain that into my self-concept and basically accessing it from the subconscious point of view by journaling and meditating and becoming very self-aware to have then the thought discipline of, okay, every time I have this, let me be aware of it and let me rephrase the statement that I'm saying to myself. But what are some ways that people can then access through meditation? Like, how does that work?
[VIVARELLI]
Well, I think money, I'm glad you brought up money first because money is one that is tangible. You can see it, you can feel it, and there are a lot of negative emotions about money. Anxiety, fear of loss of what you have, anger that people don't pay you, anger people don't pay you enough, guilt that you might be making more money than your parents. Like there's a lot of negative emotion that can happen around money. So I remember when I was first starting to change my money beliefs, the belief at the time was practice saying, I am abundant, I am prosperous, I am rich. Now, if you grow up with no money, a big pile of abundance and a big pile of prosperity doesn't mean really anything at all to you. And even saying I am rich, it's too far a jump, especially if your parents were on welfare or they were having issues with continual employment dependent on, say, government subsidies and things. Saying to someone like that, just practice I'm abundant, that's not going to mean a heck of a lot to them. But if you say to someone, okay, you feel really trapped because of your lack of money, someone, okay, you feel really trapped because of your lack of money. What is it that you would really like? Obviously, it's to feel free and to feel financially free. So I worked out a way at the time to go, okay, well, I'm working four or five days a week, but I am actually free two or three days a week. I'm free where I don't have to go to work. So on those days, I would go, I was in Australia at the time and there's lots of beautiful beaches. And even in London, there's lots of parks. And I'd just go walking for an hour and I would practice, I am free, I am free, I'm financially free. Now, I was actually free at that time. So it was easier to do it on a day where I was not at work. So practicing the feeling in your body of I am free and the feeling of freedom, which is how people that have money feel because they can get what they want and they can buy as much as they want. That's the feeling of financial freedom. So I started to practice that and that feeling was easier to connect with than I am rich or I am wealthy. So for me, that feeling of practicing that on days off then generated more money and going from about 20, I think it was earning 20, $25,000 a year at that time. And then practicing that, you know, made me jump in increments up to six figures. So it's the feeling of trappedness that you need to let go of. And it's the feeling of trappedness that so many people feel it in a nutshell.
[CATTE]
Yeah, I think that's really important for people to understand is when they're first starting out to manifest money, a lot of times, I always say that even if somebody were to achieve that, it would be very hard to maintain. And that is why a lot of lottery winners can't keep can't keep their winnings. [The statistic] is something like, within five years, it's all lost because they never learned the belief system attached to that level of money. They don't know the habits, the lifestyle, you know, they go kind of crazy with it.
[VIVARELLI]
Yeah, that same thing happens with relationships, Shannon. It's exactly the same foundation that you're talking about, whether it's money and you get this amazing amount and then you lose it all because you haven't got the mindset, the same thing applies to relationships and trying to manifest a specific person. People can do it, but they can't maintain it. And that's the biggest issue that I find in working with people. It's not the attraction. It's not the manifesting. It's the maintaining for a year, two years, five years, 10 years, 12 years. That's where you really see what you're made of in terms of having shifted your beliefs about relationships.
[CATTE]
What is it that is causing most people to lose those relationships that they attract?
[VIVARELLI]
To use the other person as their source of love, sucking love out of that person, and that person gets so sick of it that they run away. That is what causes, I believe, most breakups. One person is, I want more. I'm not getting enough, I'm dissatisfied, and you should be giving me more. You gave me more before, why aren't you still doing that now? And they are burdening that person with trying to get love from them. When two givers are in a relationship, that relationship thrives. Two people that have good self-love, good self-worth, look after themselves mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and then they bring that food into the relationship and it fertilizes it. And the relationship just gets better and better and better. But there is often an imbalance, and I see this when I'm working with people over the years, that it starts off as two people giving or one person giving and the other one taking but being grateful. And then eventually the giver gets tired, gets resentful, gets angry, and then takes off. So it's that thing that we need to watch when we are entering relationships. I need to be someone who is able to meet my own needs and also be overflowing that onto the other person. So they are not responsible for the stuff that's happened to me in past relationships or in my childhood. They're not there to make up for that. And that, I think, is the one bit of information and knowledge that if we can be aware of that, you can save a relationship if you know that. And you can also transform a bad relationship if you're at the tail ends of it and it's, you know, about to fall over. You can resurrect and save relationships if you really start to work on that part of you.
[CATTE]
What I'm hearing is actually with manifesting a specific person, there's two parts to it. There's one, the attraction part, and then there's the back end where you have to be a complete individual to be able to give into the relationship as equally as you. But on the back end, once you are that ‘whole individual’ with the self-love, being emotionally, spiritually mature, all of that, wouldn't that help you with attraction in the first place?
[VIVARELLI]
Because you are no longer with this long list of things of what that person has to do to make you happy. So you've given that person the greatest gift of all, which is the gift of unconditional love. You don't need to do certain things to make me feel loved. I am grateful and I have humility and I bring that towards you. And whatever you do, I feel so happy about. So you come from the place of what you give is enough, what you give is enough, what you give is enough. And when you're in that place, you've got your hands off your hips. And, you know, I see a lot of hands on hip stuff where they owe me, they used to do this, they used to do that. And that is the poison fertilizer that kills the plant of your beautiful relationship.
Listen to the full podcast episode by clicking here.
Just from that short excerpt, here are the insights I've gathered:
- Manifestation is something that can be learned by anyone, regardless of the country they were born, their upbringing, their religion, and their backstory. This is empowering because it means you can start inviting positivity and growth into your life as soon as you decide to start.
- When it comes to manifestation techniques, the key is anything that works on your mindset and gets you away from the problems in front of you. Affirmations that change your state from a "problem-suffering" state to a freedom, joy, happiness, and secure state are the best techniques.
- The mistake with money manifestation is actually the exact same mistake with relationship manifestation. The problem is not with attraction. It is in maintenance. Anyone can attract money just as easily as anyone can attract a person of interest. How you keep what you win is up to your mental, emotional, and spiritual maturity.
- Something that can turn a relationship around and even resurrect a dead relationship is by filling yourself up with so much love for yourself that you can give unconditionally to the other person. The greatest gift you can give to somebody else is unconditional love.
All of this is just from the first ten minutes of our conversation. Mind-blowing, right? But the golden nuggets do not stop there!
There's so much to be uncovered in the actual podcast episode, I actually can't wait for you to listen to the whole conversation and see for yourself.
At the end, Agnes delivers on a promise that she made to me before we hit the recording button: she had a TON of special freebies.
These are absolutely life-changing for the right person, so if you're reading this, consider yourself very lucky:
- A meditation to manifest love, featuring Patti Stanger
- A 12-part "Manifesting a Wonderful Relationship" series
- A 6-part "Attracting Your Person". It can be someone specific, or it can be a brand new relationship
- A 6-part "Long-Distance Relationship" series.
- A free manifestation tracker. Now, this is quite an in-depth document that people can use to track what they want to manifest in different categories. They can set up weekly plans, monthly plans, yearly plans, and it is something that you can fill in online.
- A beauty subliminal, which is for inner beauty to match the outer beauty.
- An entire meditation channel you can search for any topic
I told her Agnes that we were being completely spoiled. And you know what her response was? If this isn't enough to turn you into a super-fan, I don't know what will:
A long time ago, Agnes told herself that when she was in a better place, she would help and give people the things that would really make a difference. Because she tried so many things, some that turned out to be useless or a waste of time. Since then, she's honed her expertise (and is LIVING PROOF that it all WORKS). She's also been able to cut out the noise. So what she's offering and making freely available to us, is the stuff she knows we need.
If you're looking to seriously "level-up" your belief system, Agnes Vivarelli is the person I would send you to first.
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